And the contemplation on the nature of suffering will bring us insight on how that suffering has come to be, and the conditions that have brought this suffering to us. Please, visit our Audio Archives and select the Dharma Talk which you would like to transcribe. The third element of true love is joy, mudita. The practice of looking deeply will help you to be less possessive, more understanding, and therefore you can offer the other person joy every day. what I'm actually going to do Suddenly the nectar of compassion is born in your heart. Remember, the third mantra is to be practiced when the person you love suffers. Your father at some point may have shouted at you, believing that shouting was the best way to keep you calm. what if it's a bad photo? And we can do that. How is this possible? âMister, you are not my daddy. meaning, you might highlight a word When we have the energy of compassion in us, we can relate to the world very easily, because it is exactly that kind of energy that helps us to get out of our prison of loneliness. Let's say you have But I also got a new insight. And doing that And our conversation centered Then your depression will have to die or go away for lack of food, because everything needs food to survive, including your depression. And the most amazing thing You will look back and see how you have lived your life in the last six months or so, you will find out how that depression has come. Or if you have a lot of luck, you will survive the war and go home to your parents, your wife, your children. Well, the answer is yes, Finally all the people in the village learned of the tragedy, they came and organized a big ceremony to pray for the poor lady. The talk begins with a discussion on bell inviting. Thich Nhat Hanh—or, as his students call him, Thây, the Vietnamese word for "teacher"—brings along a group of Plum Village monks and nuns to listen in on our conversation. That is why we have to practice meditation and look deeply into the nature of our perceptions. There are many men and women like that around us. that matches people And he succeeded in writing the letter. Our friends have to depict him in a sitting position or in walking meditation, radiating peace and stability. But if we are full of pain, suffering, anger, hatred, then it will be very difficult for us to accept the injustice people inflict on us. Every time I scroll a news feed, to create the choices TED TALKS "ADHD sucks, but not really" Salif Mahamane. During the week that followed, I gave him the other half of the exercise: âBreathing in, I see my father as a five-year-old boy. you have a bunch of long brown robes, © TED Conferences, LLC. Every time I look at that, I still feel a lot of compassion. Thich Nhat Hanh from: Making Sense of These Times. We have to learn how to manage, how to take care of the violence in us. When you suffer and you believe that the person who makes you suffer is the person you love the most, you want to be alone. the more usage you have, I want to live in this world, You don’t want to talk to him or to her. Even if the other person tries to approach and to reconcile, you are still very angry. But the worst part is that I know people spent on the website, I'll tell you how it works. We have learned that compassion and loving-kindness cannot just be born like that, they need the practice in order to be born. ... You have to talk to him, talk to her. You cannot say that because you shout like that he accepts to become calm for a moment and you think it’s a good way to proceed. And you can always improve the nature of your love. people spent on the website. Thich Nhat Hanh Ordained as a monk aged 16 in Vietnam, Thich Nhat Hanh soon envisioned a kind of engaged Buddhism that could respond directly to the needs of society. But this only works And subtracted the amount of time There are kinds of love that bring us a lot of sorrow, a lot of jealousy, a lot of hatred, a lot of suffering, because they are not true love. That's what we're doing all the time, If you don’t show that you understand that suffering, then you cannot practice karuna. If by loving, by being in love, you feel that you are losing your freedom, you have no space to move anymore, that’s not true love. And this is possible. How positive was your experience? In some spiritual traditions, there is a concept called "holding the space"—or showing up as a compassionate listener. what am I going to get next? Because Nancy and John are in this Fragile. But the thing is that 60 seconds later, what would their design goal be? Why? How can slot machines make all this money translators. which is incredible. Your natural tendency is to tell him or her that you can survive without him or her. But a scientist may tell us that the sun has already set eight minutes ago. There was a young man who was drafted into the army, so he had to go to the army and go to war. Please tell me who is that person who used to come every night, and that you talked cried to a lot, and every time you sat down he would sit down.â A very simple thing to do. He repeated that for many days: never talked to his wife, never looked at her, never ate at home, and the young lady suffered so much she could not bear it. to various things like this, Although his daddy already had passed away, he still could not reconcile with him. Blood ancestors like grandpa, great grandpa, great grandma, and so on. You go to him or to her with full awareness, with full mindfulness and concentration, and you utter the fourth mantra: âDarling, I suffer, please help.â This is quite difficult. Her husband burned the incense, prayed to the ancestors, spread the mat, made the four prostrations and announced that he was home, safe, with his family. and I pull down to refresh, and subtracted from that the articles He did not go home until very late, something like one or two o’clock in the morning, and he went home very drunk. And the thing is that, They don’t know what they are doing. Every time I check my phone, You feel the freedom of the moon, because the moon has a lot of space around her. That is the poem written by the king, to honor the lady. when we said we need And what if we could Nancy's on the left Then you go to him or to her and you practice the mantra. only you can prioritize a new metric, He did not know his path yet. Then, if you are mindful, you will know that the person you love suffers, and with some amount of looking deeply, you can identify the suffering in him or her. She did not understand. You suffer one hundred times more. So how do we fix this? what am I going to get? He needs someone to tell him and to help him. That is true in most cases. They would have recovered their happiness so easily, the direct way. He was very curious, because I had said that the fourth mantra is more difficult. Nancy can mark that she's focused. Please be kind to the butterfly.â The child understood right away. You offer it to your spiritual ancestors and blood ancestors. So I would find out whether Jesus bears the injustice that was inflicted on him well, whether in his heart there was anger or hatred, whether he is trying to teach us how to learn from our suffering. How could I alone bring up our child? So let's take an example that we all face: So if you want to practice, you may like to use your family album, you may need a picture of you when you were five or four, and you generate compassion for yourself. they ask both of them: designers and Thich Nhat Hanh. and baseball combined? And whatever you do can bring him or her a lot of happiness. and the cooking articles so — bam — she's focused. of swipes left and right people did, Imagine you had web browsers or, really, just a net It’s not because we bring him or her a lot of money that we can make him or her happy, but the way we live, the freshness we have, the tolerance we have. existed, had Couchsurfing not existed. Probably too much — Pride prevents you going to the other person and asking for help. âDarling, I suffer. You want to be independent. I have in my hut a picture of me taken when I was sixteen and a half, a young novice. A little over a year ago, After the Dharma talk, when we were about to do walking meditation, there was a gentleman who stopped me on my way and asked me about the fourth mantra. But this is the person you love most in the world, and he just did that to you, he just said that to you. I've been tagged in a photo. You don’t want him or her to touch you. He just could not think of his father. It was very active during the years of his teaching. 7 Thich Nhat Hanh - Dharma Talks (878p).pdf 8 Thich Nhat Hanh - Fidelity, How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts.pdf 9 Thich Nhat Hanh - Freedom Wherever We Go, A Buddhist Monastic Code for the 21st Century.pdf an email like this, right? Practice walking meditation. Arguably, you have more power is measured in time spent. doesn't stop me Also, during that question and answer session, there was one question about the necessity of expressing our emotions and anger. And her research also shows of my time get slipped away with technology, right? That is equanimity. But no one was thinking of coming to the other person and asking for help, because prideâyou have to call it by its true name, prideâwas an obstacle. where instead of measuring the number actually care about this? We actually cycle through What am I going to get? During his lifetime, no one has been able to help him, to transform his violence and his anger. Every time he went out of his room he stopped by the door, looked into his fatherâs eyes, and began to breathe in and out and visualize his father as a little boy. Now people are attracted to the image of the Buddha, because the Buddha was sitting in a very solid, calm way, radiating peace and happiness, a half-smile on his lips. He did not know how to transform that, so he was repeating the same kind of thing with you. I told him: âMy dear, don’t you know that tonight the father and the mother of the butterfly will have to spend the whole night waiting for the butterfly to come home? In the Buddhist teachings, it is clear that the practice of compassion and loving-kindness is the only antidote to violence, hatred, and anger. By killing themselves, they want to send a message to their parents: âYou know, I am killing myself because of you. "I need to send Nancy that document." that showed this. the deepest human values, [Poem in Vietnamese for 55 seconds.] the amount of time So people are doing you injustice, are doing awful things to you and the people around. Looking for a talk that others have appreciated or wanting to revisit something you heard in the past? If these young people try to kill themselves, itâs mostly because they want to retaliate against their parents. We have often heard that when you contemplate the image of Jesus dying on the cross, you remember the fact that Jesus suffered and died for us. so that Nancy can still focus, We will do exactly the way our father has done to us. That is a natural tendency. Want to hear some great quotes on mindfulness, one of the best people to listen to (or read from) is Thich Nhat Hanh. You have the duty of announcing this to your ancestors because they have the right to know, because that is their great, great granddaughter or son. That is why, when their parents express their anger, the children have to receive the violence and they have no means to get it outâto express it, to transform it. Right? This project relies on generosity (Dana) so that these talks can continue to be made available to all. You say: âDon’t touch me. to the original thing we were doing. I did not have the chance to address his question, this approach. Now, do designers The teaching of love in Buddhism is quite clear. it's conditioning and training us positive experiences and relationships a corresponding measurement This is a 97-minute dharma talk from Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh in Hanoi during the “Engaged Buddhism in the 21st Century” retreat. The Path of Emancipation: Talks from a 21-Day Mindfulness Retreat, Unified Buddhist Church, 2000, ISBN 81-7621-189-3; A Pebble in Your Pocket, Full Circle Publishing, 2001, ISBN 81-7621-188-5; Thich Nhat Hanh: Essential Writings, Robert Ellsberg (Editor), Orbis Books, 2001, ISBN 1-57075-370-9 Making another person happy is an art that we have to learn. So practicing looking deeply is to bring the kind of insight that will help us to understand, to accept, to love, to be compassionate. accidental or mindless interruptions, You need to learn how to talk to him or to her. So I just propose this to you, to see whether it makes sense to set up a family ancestral altar in a European home or in a North American home. but it doesn't leave me with any choice, our goal with messaging before, And what you were left with I suffer very much. After having offered incense, prayed and made four prostrations, the young father rolled up the mat and did not allow his wife to do the same, because he thought that his wife was not qualified to present herself in front of the ancestral altar. And John remembers, So suddenly, you are on your cushion, and you feel that you can breathe, you can survive. am I missing something important? He needs to practice forbearance, patience. This is a very simple, but important practice every morning. But after that I thought it over, and I thought that the children are able to understand and practice the fourth mantra, also. The situation might be very different. No discrimination. Only the practice of looking deeply can bring about acceptance and understanding and love. that gives us back choice Couchsurfing is a website Writing a letter like that untied a lot of bondage in him, because of the nectar of compassion that had been born in his heart. If this email shows up — as the need to create lasting, If the river is calm, then the image of the moon will be reflected clearly in the river. Most of us who sit here, we are at the same time children and parents. and measure your success until the consumer demand was there. Plum Village is your home, too. That is why you cannot bear it. Because it takes eight minutes for the image of the sun to come to usâthat is the speed of light. But according to this teaching, you have to practice looking deeply into the nature of your love. Well, you would think that works this way. He was also as vulnerable as you, as fragile as you. Have I done anything wrong to deserve that kind of treatment?â That’s what she had to do. We learned that Jesus had gone to the mountain and practiced meditation alone. She began to suffer herself, suffer deeply. That’s what we need. She also suffered so deeply, but was too proud to ask. And it was the most amazing meeting. It shines on the mountain and on the rivers. The other day, in the New Hamlet, I was asked by a friend about the meaning of the meditation on the image of Jesus on the cross. And later on maybe communication between you and him will become difficult.â So we cannot say that it works. And besides, his birth name was Nguyen Xuan Bao, so calling him "Thich Nhat Hanh" or simply "Nhat Hanh" would be in the end incorrect anyway. But there's a second, subtle thing That is what the Buddha said. Open Translation Project. Nancy again on the left, He had to search for the kerosene lamp and he had to light it up. this new kind of technology. and distracted all the time, Please come back as soon as possible.â That’s the kind of talking she used to do. every three-and-a-half minutes. Suddenly, that fragile image of your father comes to you, and you see that he’s no different from you. It’s very human also. She went to the gate of the village to welcome her husband, and she was accompanied by her little boy. and the deepest human values? you had a compassion check, The refreshing moon, beautiful moon, is sailing through the ocean of the sky. thinking about how to spend my time. Le Anh-Huy 07:17, 17 June 2006 (UTC) In this summer opening we have had a few Dharma talks on the topic of forbearance. They cried quite a lot when they had to separate from each other. You have to learn now to train yourself, to prepare for that time. He has been writing books about peace and mindfulness for decades. Leave me alone. You want to lock your room, and cry alone. At first I thought the question should be addressed to teachers in the tradition. of hours in people's lives It is not difficult. I still just get sucked into it. he has this thought, a relationship with technology In every home, there is an altar for ancestors. That is why we have to learn how to be children and to be parents at the same time. Please help me.â Without pride. That is the kind of energy that should be fabricated by us. shaved heads, Buddhist monks. in terms of cooking nights organized He pulled his hair. Every morning you light a stick of incense. where we're just trying Because by shouting like that, your child may get an internal formation, a wound within himself. He had asked for a picture of his father to be sent from America. We live with wrong perceptions every day. And you know that when you are able to do something for people you get a lot of joy, of peace, of stability. we change the goal to something I really think so. let's say you take two people who meet up, Imagine you gave this different Right? So when she came home, she was very surprised. He could not bear the thought of thinking and writing a letter to his father. The violence we received, we don’t know how to transform, and even if we hate our father, if we promised ourselves that when we grow up we will do entirely differently from our father, we will repeat the same. This is the fourth talk on May 8, 2008 and the talk is offered in English. He joked in our conversation The third dharma talk of the Understanding Is Love Retreat with Thich Nhat Hanh at the European Institute of Applied Buddhism in Waldbrol, Germany. When the offering had been made, she placed it on the altar. before he forgets. Thich Nhat Hanh is a Vietnamese Buddhist Zen master, poet, scholar, and peace activist who was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. So the practice of looking deeply is the practice of expanding the heart, of putting more space and compassion into our heart. So what they do is, Jesus had a great vitality within himself. What does it mean to spend our time well? This is very important, because if you get cut off from your ancestors, you will get sick, like a tree without roots. We no longer want to blame, because we have touched his or her suffering. than movies, game parks 77-minute Dharma Talk given by Thich Nhat Hanh, from Lower Hamlet, Plum Village, France. What if I'm missing something important? You go to him or her, and breathing in deeply, out deeply, become yourself one hundred percent and just open your mouth and say with all your might, your concentration, that you suffer and you need her help, his help. 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